Emotion Focused Therapy For Couples at Village Wisdom
You have had the same argument more times than you can count. One of you pushes, the other goes quiet, and nothing gets settled. Afterwards you both feel further apart.
This approach goes underneath the argument to the feelings and needs driving it. Adejuwon Adeleye offers emotion focused couples therapy in Prince George, BC, as his lead approach, in person and online across the province. It is a method for partners who want to work on the relationship together.
This page explains how the method works. For the full overview of couples work, see our couples counselling in Prince George page.
What Is Emotion Focused Couples Therapy?
Emotion focused couples therapy is a structured approach built on one idea. The way partners connect, or fail to connect, drives most relationship distress. It looks at emotion and attachment, which is the need to know your partner is there for you.
In sessions, you and your partner learn to name the cycle that repeats between you. You then explore the feelings under it, such as fear of being alone, shame, or feeling unimportant. Over time, you practise telling each other what you need in a softer, more open way.
Who Is EFT Couples Therapy For?
This approach is built for couples, and both partners take part. It tends to fit best when:
- Conflict is intense, or arguments escalate quickly.
- One of you pursues while the other withdraws.
- An affair or broken trust has left you both hurting.
- You feel emotionally distant and are not sure why.
If you mainly want practical day-to-day communication tools, Adejuwon may lean on the Gottman Method instead. He matches the approach to what you bring. Partners of all genders, sexualities, and backgrounds are welcome.
This approach may not be the right first step if you feel unsafe in your relationship. In that case, Adejuwon can talk with you about other supports first. If you are in crisis, call or text 9-8-8.
Signs EFT May Be a Good Fit
You may notice that:
- You argue about different topics, but it feels like the same fight.
- One of you shuts down or leaves the room when things heat up.
- You can see the pattern, yet cannot stop it in the moment.
- Apologies happen, but the same hurt returns.
- You feel lonely even when your partner is nearby.
You may have already tried talking it through, reading books, or taking space, and landed back in the same place. That does not mean you are failing. It often means the pattern needs to be seen before it can change.
These are signs worth talking through with a professional. They are not a diagnosis of your relationship.
How EFT Helps Couples Reconnect
This approach treats the cycle between you as the problem, not either partner. That shift matters. Once you stop blaming each other, you can start protecting what you share.
Attachment sits at the centre of the work. Many couples in distress are asking each other, in different ways, whether the other is really there. It helps you ask that question openly, instead of through anger or silence.
Adejuwon links present-day reactions to each partner's attachment history and the way you grew up. For high-conflict couples, he also helps set ground rules for arguing and a shared word that flags the old pattern.
Many couples find they recover faster after a disagreement and talk more openly. Every couple's experience is different, and no outcome can be promised.
How the Work of EFT Unfolds
Name the cycle
Reach the raw spots
Practise softer connection
Our Approach to EFT
Adejuwon does not run one fixed protocol. EFT is his lead approach when conflict runs high or emotions are raw. When couples mainly want practical communication tools, he may draw on the Gottman Method instead.
In sessions, he keeps the focus on the cycle between you rather than on who is right. You practise softer ways of communicating directly in the room, so the skills are not left on a worksheet.
Your EFT Therapist, Adejuwon Adeleye
Adejuwon Adeleye is a Registered Clinical Counsellor with a Master of Counselling from Athabasca University. His EFT training is the EFT Core and Fundamentals training, and he describes his practice as EFT-informed rather than certified.
He has used EFT to support couples through infidelity. You can read his full background on his about page.
EFT Session Options and Booking
EFT sessions are booked as couples counselling sessions. Fees, formats, and the first-session process are covered on the couples counselling page.
- In person: 1300 1st Ave, Suite 204, Prince George, BC.
- Online: sessions are available anywhere in British Columbia.
- Session length: 50 minutes or 80 minutes.
- Fees: $160 for 50 minutes and $230 for 80 minutes.
- Coverage: ask your benefits provider whether counselling by a Registered Clinical Counsellor is covered.
Why Choose Village Wisdom for EFT?
Village Wisdom Counselling is a solo practice. You work with the same therapist from your first session onward, so you never have to retell your story.
EFT is the practice's lead approach, not an add-on. The practice is open to people of all backgrounds, abilities, and relationship structures.
Related Services and Resources
- Couples counselling in Prince George is the full overview of couples work, including how the first sessions run.
- Individual counselling is one-on-one support if you want your own space to work through things.
- Family counselling helps when the strain reaches the wider household.
- About Adejuwon explains his background.
Emotion Focused Couples Therapy FAQs
Book Emotion Focused Couples Therapy in Prince George
If the same argument keeps coming back, you do not have to work it out alone. Book a free 15-minute consultation or your first session of emotion focused couples therapy in Prince George, in person or online across BC. Bring the question you most want answered.
This page is general information and not a substitute for professional advice. Results vary from couple to couple, and no outcome can be promised. In an emergency, call 911. In Canada, you can call or text 9-8-8 at any time.
